Family Code
Do’s
- Rough draft first
- List the non-negotiables in your home (respect, dinner time, etc)
- Write each statement in positives (“We will treat each other respectfully using a tone that sounds respectful”)
- List up to 5 non-negotiables
- Next list what positive rewards that will occur naturally from following these guidelines (ie., you’ll be rewarded with 30 minutes extra screen time daily)
- Create the Consequence List for these not being followed
- This consequence list needs to communicate clear consequences (ie., your electronic devices will be removed for 2 days)
- Decorate to appeal to the eye
- Frame
- Share with family in family meeting
- Allow feedback and suggestions and revise if appropriate
- Place/hang in well viewed area of home (ie. by dinner table)
Don’ts
- Use only ‘do not’ language
- List more than 5 non-negotiables
- Forget to list positive rewards
- List only consequences
- Create ‘blurry’ consequences (ie you’ll lose time on your device)
- Forget to share and ask for feedback from the family
- Not follow through with either the positives or the negative consequences
Kathleen Hassenfratz, LPC
